Category: Advice Column

My work colleague, who I manage, keeps taking things that I say out of context to use against me. What should I do? I’m no mathematician but I reckon that if we work five days out of seven, we spend about 70% of our lives getting ready for work, commuting to work, and actually at…

My parents recently separated after 45 years of marriage. My dad is 70 and heartbroken. How do I help him through this and work through my anger towards my mum? What a horrible shock this must have been. There seems to be a belief that children whose parents separate have it more difficult than adults…

I just moved to a new city and I feel very isolated. How do I make friends? For those of us who have lived in many places, we often think of moving cities as no big deal. We may have mastered the art of packing the perfect box. We may have set up the wifi…

My boyfriend becomes a horrible person when he drinks too much. What should I do? We all know that life is a gift and that our time on this earth is short. However, none of us can deny that sometimes being alive can be tough and we need something to anaesthetise ourselves from the realities…

Pre-children I had an exciting career that I loved, but that was all-consuming. I just can’t see it working now without my kids losing out in some way or my wellbeing suffering. Is the ability to have it all a myth? I must start this letter with something of a disclaimer: I am not a…

My life has fallen apart since lockdown. My relationship has ended and I have lost my job. How do I stay hopeful? Life-altering events can be difficult at the best of times, and a global pandemic is absolutely not the best of times. So, before I begin this letter, I want to take a moment…